Should You As A Christian Think Big Or Think Positive?

meditation-1281253_1920The airwaves fill our eyes with numerous life principles that promise to change our lives and make our dreams come true. Motivational speakers convincingly tell us to believe in the power within, to think and aspire for great things and to believe in ourselves.

They claim that what we visualize and dream comes to pass every time. So the power to get what we want is in our thinking. Change your thoughts and attitudes and life gives you what you want. Really?

If you are not a Christian, what you’re about to read will seem like total nonsense because you don’t have the Holy Spirit to teach you the things of God. If you are a Christian, I welcome you to consider what the Bible has to say and let us reason together.

First, let us head this warning, “See to it that no one takes you captive through hollow and deceptive philosophy, which depends on human tradition and the basic principles of this world rather than on Christ.” Colossians 2:8. Notice that the world has a way it sees and does things!

Like you, I’ve heard preachers on the pulpit tell their listeners to desire for more, to raise their faith and trust God for more. Don’t settle for less. Desire to shop in better places, live in better neighbourhoods, take your kids to the best schools in the land, go for your dream house or car etc. Sounds good doesn’t it!?

And there is a catchy verse in Proverbs 23:7 that is the foundation of think big and positive thinking movement. “For as he thinks in his heart so is he.” Who is the Bible talking about? The context is of a stingy man who is not sincere in his hospitality and gives food to someone but is concerned more about the cost. Therefore like this man, we are what we think. Sure!

If you were to think about it, are you really what you think you are or you are what God says you are? Does what I think change or remove the fact of who I am? Can a sinner who think they are good become a saint?

The way I see it, the person from whom you get your ideas determines the course of your life. My thoughts do impact my behaviour but the person who informs my thoughts makes the whole difference.

Now tell me, my fellow Christian, who informs our thoughts most of the time? Is it the secular Tv shows, movies, music, motivational speakers or the teachings of God’s servants?

I dare say that only the Word of God has the power to change your attitudes and make you think right. I am afraid we have elevated the mind above the Word of God. These days it is the mind that has the power and not the Word.

Unless the heart is changed by Christ and the mind is renewed by Holy Scriptures nothing good can grow in the human mind that has eternal significance.

When you take a critical look at the church today, what do you see? What is the focus of the gospel in comparison to the focus of Jesus and the apostles he left to continue on his mission? Do you think Apostle Peter or Paul would preach such sermons? Did the early Christians chase an easy and comfortable life for themselves? Were they motivated and hyped to think of better things for themselves here on earth?

What does the Bible tell us to focus on? “Since, then, you have been raised with Christ, set your hearts on things above, where Christ is seated at the right hand of God. Set your minds on things above, not on earthly things.” Colossians 3:1&2

What a Christian should be and do with his life does not originate from his thinking but from the purposes of God for his particular life. God says, “I formed you in your mother’s womb. I knew you even before you lived a single day. I planned your whole life and wrote the days of your life in my book. I know your future as I know your past.” Refer to Psalms 139.

How then can I begin shaping my life and future by thoughts when I have no idea of what tomorrow will bring? Am I really in control of my life?

The carnal man delights in taking credit for his accomplishments but a Christian must know and always remember that apart from Christ he is nothing and can do nothing. John the Baptist inspires me greatly because he understood two important truths.

First, he understood that we can only receive what God gives us – that’s why he didn’t mind his disciples leaving him to follow Christ. Second, he knew that when Jesus comes into the picture, he must decrease and Jesus must increase – Christ takes centre stage.

Did Abraham think big or positive to become the father of nations and father of faith? Did Moses think big to deliver the children of Israel? Did David think big to become the king of Israel? Clearly, God chose and appointed these men to accomplish His purposes in their generation.

Now, let’s look at Jesus, our example. His singular focus in life was to do the will of His Father. He didn’t come to do what he thought or wanted. Right from the start of His ministry, He pursued the purposes of God for His life. Jesus said, “When you have lifted up the Son of Man, then you will know that I am the one I claim to be and that I do nothing on my own but speak just what the Father has taught me. John 8:28.

The apostles were busy preaching the gospel even when it cost them their lives. They seldom thought anything of their lives unlike the modern preacher who is more concerned of earthly wellbeing than the heavenly home to come.

A story is told of a man called Baruch. He used to ascribe Jeremiah’s words on scrolls and was very worried about his future. To bring him back to his senses, God said, “Should you then seek great things for yourself? Seek them not. For I will bring disaster on all people, declares the LORD, but wherever you go I will let you escape with your life.’ ” Jeremiah 45:5. Have we forgotten the fate of this world we live in?

Desiring big things for ourselves is not only a lie but it is also selfish. Trying to make things happen through positive thinking is a burden and a delusion. Man once again is falling for the lie of becoming a god unto himself!

As a Christian, I belong to Christ, God is my Father and only the Holy Spirit can empower, counsel and help me in everyway to will and to do according to what God wants. I don’t have to come up with dreams for my life purpose is already determined, known and written down. I am simply a vessel of God here on earth.

I don’t sit down and think big or think small. I do my duty each day – work hard, give my best, plan to the extent I can. Then I study the Word of God, meditate on it, do my best to obey it and trust God to lead me on the path I should take. He orders my steps.

And as the Bible repeatedly remind us, the righteous live by faith not by sight. If Christ and the Holy Spirit live in us, should we not given them full control over our lives?

Do you remember the key to success and prosperity given to Joshua? Hasn’t God promised to order the steps of the righteous? Read Joshua 1:8, Psalm 37:23.

Dear Christian, let us be alert and careful as regards conforming to the thinking patterns of this world. There is always a motivational speaker who will tell you how powerful and capable you are in bringing about your dreams through dreaming big or visualizing or thinking positive. That’s a destructive lie.

We are not home yet and if we ever believe such lies we shall be robbed, left confused and disappointed. Wrong expectations even from God always lead to misunderstanding, frustration and heartbreak.

Our focus should be to think like Christ. The word of God is Spirit, scriptures are life for our souls, bread for our hungers, water for our thirsts and a light to our path. Jesus is Truth and the more of the Word we have in us the more of Him we have in us. Should we not focus on the Author and Perfector of our faith?

A Christian must come to a place of assurance that God will not deny Him anything good. What He wants you to have that you don’t have yet you will have. He will bring it to you in His time and in His way.

Rather than sweat needlessly thinking big, seek God first, ask the Holy Spirit to reveal what God has in store for you. Only the spirit of God knows the things of God concerning your life. You will be a much happier person if you learn to receive your answers from the Spirit and wait for them to come in the physical. You will no longer carry the burden of wondering how to bring your big dreams to pass but you will look to God to bring to pass what the Holy Spirit has revealed to you.

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” Philippians l 4:8.

Meditate on scriptures and on the revelations and promises of God. Spiritual maturity demands that we surrender all our self-interests, give up our lives and the need to save ourselves and sell all out to Jesus and follow Him each day. What He does with our lives is not really upto us. Our part is to believe Him – who He says He is and do what He commands – then carry the cross apportioned us.

Our Lord Jesus said, “If anyone would come after me, he must deny himself and take up his cross and follow me. For whoever wants to save his life will lose it, but whoever loses his life for me will find it.” Matthew 16:24&25.

Thinking big or positive says “It’s all about me.” Thinking like Christ, his kingdom and his plans for my life says “It’s all about Jesus.” Is your mind preoccupied by the eternal things or temporary things?

Think Big or Positive Think Like Christ
1.  First is “My…life, dream, desire etc” 1. First is “His…kingdom, purposes, will etc
2.  Focus is mostly on earthly things 2. Focus is mostly on heavenly things
3.  Thoughts originates from personal desires 3. Thoughts originate from the mind of God
4.  Inspired by self 4. Inspired by the Holy Spirit
5.  Ask God to come and join what a person is doing 5. Joins where God is at work and through his leading
6.  Often brings worry, anxiety and stress 6. Brings peace, joy
7.  Personal effort to make things happen 7. Obeys God and follows His leading and God makes things happen


Thank you for reading Pass On Leadership. I welcome your comments and thoughts – as iron sharpens iron, so should we sharpen one another. We may not always agree, but the Holy Spirit teaches and leads us into all truth. God bless you.

Scriptures For Further Study

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” Philippians l 4:8

“Therefore, I urge you, brothers, in view of God’s mercy, to offer your bodies as living sacrifices, holy and pleasing to God—this is your spiritual act of worship.

Do not conform any longer to the pattern of this world, but be transformed by the renewing of your mind. Then you will be able to test and approve what God’s will is —his good, pleasing and perfect will.” Romans 12:1-2

“For the word of God is full of living power. It is sharper than the sharpest knife, cutting deep into our innermost thoughts and desires. It exposes us for what we really are.” Hebrews 4:12 NLT

“All Scripture is inspired by God and is useful to teach us what is true and to make us realize what is wrong in our lives. It straightens us out and teaches us to do what is right. 17 It is God’s way of preparing us in every way, fully equipped for every good thing God wants us to do.” 2 Timothy 3:16 NLT

Freedom From Addictive Sins GET Series 10: ‘GET A LIFE’!

businessmen-1050342_1280The final suggestion in this series that I’ll give you is this….’GET A LIFE’! I say this not to be rude, but it’s true. The reason why we get so imbedded in habitual, addictive sin is because we have a lot of unwisely used time. Spending too much time watching TV or in front of the computer is a waste of time. We end up getting bored, and wind up in places we know we shouldn’t be in.

How do we ‘get a life’? By figuring out what our passions, calling, or goals in life are. We can also get a life by getting off our rear ends and having fun through doing something and staying busy. These are the things that will give us a sense of meaning and purpose.

The man who doesn’t have a life- a passion, or goal, and who is willing to play as hard as he works, is a man with an emptiness tailor made for habitual, addictive sin.

Life is about more than keeping yourself pure from addictive sins, as important as that is. It’s about knowing ‘who’ and ‘why’ you are, where your priorities lie and where you’re headed. If you don’t know that much about yourself, then it’s time to do some serious thinking and getting to know yourself. I challenge you all to boldly pray and ask God “Where do I need to change?”

My challenge to all of you is this: Commit yourself to developing your life as being a good steward of your gifts and abilities, as well as the opportunities that come your way, using them for God’s glory. Make that your goal, to honor God in ALL things.

Moral integrity for its own sake is a good thing, but moral integrity for the sake of honoring God is even better.

Stay strong, stay pure, & honor God.


Study Verses

I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, I have kept the faith. 2Timothy 4:7

Each one should use whatever gift he has received to serve others, faithfully administering God’s grace in its various forms. 1Peter 4:10

“Find ways of giving yourself to others people or committing to causes that improve the lives of others. When you focus on bringing happiness to others, you will take your mind off ways to please yourself in illegitimate pleasures.”

Questions For Reflection

  1. Do I have a lot of free time?
  2. How can I keep myself occupied? Serve in a ministry at church, volunteer in an organization, join a sport?

Freedom From Addictive Sins GET Series 9: GET GRACE

pray-1492815_1920“It isn’t the sinless man who makes it to the end, rather it’s the man who has learned to pick himself up after he stumbles and gets back in the race. If your struggle seems relentless, remember this: “When you commit yourself to living a life of integrity pleasing to God’s standards of morality, YOU COMMIT YOURSELF TO A DIRECTION, NOT TO A PERFECTION.

There may be times when you stumble along the way – that’s still no excuse for sin – this is just a realistic view of life in a fallen world. No one is perfect, ALL have sinned, and ALL have the potential to fall into sin.

What determines the success or failure of a man is his willingness to pick himself up, confess his sins, and continue in the direction he has committed himself to. Let’s never forget the words of Paul who wrote

“Brothers, I do not consider myself to have embraced it yet…. (Paul understood that he would never achieve complete freedom form sin until he was in Heaven) …But I press on to take hold of that for which Christ Jesus took hold of me. Forgetting was is behind…. (our sins and failures) …and straining for what is ahead, I press on towards the prize for which God has called me heavenward in Christ Jesus.” (Philippians 3:13-14)


Stay strong, stay pure, & honor God.


Study Verses

For the grace of God that brings salvation has appeared to all men.

It teaches us to say “No” to ungodliness and worldly passions, and to live self-controlled, upright and godly lives in this present age, while we wait for the blessed hope—the glorious appearing of our great God and Savior, Jesus Christ, who gave himself for us to redeem us from all wickedness and to purify for himself a people that are his very own, eager to do what is good. Titus 2:11-14

This is love for God: to obey his commands. And his commands are not burdensome, for everyone born of God overcomes the world. This is the victory that has overcome the world, even our faith. Who is it that overcomes the world? Only he who believes that Jesus is the Son of God. 1John 5:3-5

Question For Reflection

  1. Am I depending on God’s grace to seem through each day?

Freedom From Addictive Sins GET Series 8: GET LOVE

family-76782_1280In our ongoing series about what we need to “GET” to help us set ourselves up for victory over sexual sins, the next thing we need to do is to GET LOVE.

Remember that old country song “Looking for Love in All the Wrong Places?” The addictive sin you’re drawn to is in fact a cheap (though intense) substitute for love. You can repent of the sin, but NOT the need the sin represents. The need is to feel loved.

So get love in your life, whether it be through friendships, family, your spouse, or other Christians. A man who truly loves, and who IS truly loved is far less likely to search for what he already has in places that he’ll never find it (porn, self-gratification, affairs, fantasies, strip clubs…).

“Why do you spend your money on that which is not bread, or labor on that which CAN NOT satisfy?” Isaiah the prophet asked this question Isaiah 55:2.

Men, learn to love, and learn to be intimate and authentic. It’s one of the best ways to protect your heart and mind from sexual sins.

Stay strong, stay pure, & honor God.


Study Verses

“A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. John 13:34

Now that you have purified yourselves by obeying the truth so that you have sincere love for your brothers, love one another deeply, from the heart. 1Peter 1:22

Questions For Reflection

  1. Who can I show love around me?
  2. How can I use my talent, gift or skill to be a blessing in the life of someone?

The Mountain Of Love



Today’s marriage is meddled and muddied,

Entry and exist so easy for multitudes,

Whether it works or fails matters least,

So many end up disillusioned and discouraged,

Because what’s beautiful has been made ugly,

and what can make man better has made man bitter.


Marriage is no man’s idea, so man holds it not dear,

Its divinity and sacredness is certain as the sunrise,

It’s Author and Keeper never makes mistakes,

He plans and executes what’s good for humanity,

He gives guidelines and grace to build right,

But few heed His call, correction and counsel

And pass blame to Him and others when all fails.


Think about this,

The farmer, the doctor and the carpenter train to trade,

But seldom do couples train and prepare for marriage,

Seldom do they understand what it takes and requires,

And few are willing to pay the price to learn and change,

For without humility, selflessness and self-control,

Their fate is decided before they walk down the aisle.


How I wish all couples understood that

The foundation of courtship determines all else to come,

It’s the time when future battles are won and tests passed,

when what is to come is revealed and dangers exposed,

Yet many keep going confidently and blindly,

and begin plucking the fruit that only the married enjoy,

but a godly couple protects each other before time,

Never attempting anything that would displease

their God, their parents and their brethren,

And thus ensure a happy firm lasting marriage.


Believe me, marriage is wonderful and beautiful,

its Maker has a purpose for everyone that enters it,

it can last, overcome storms and endure all things.

By its offspring are strong families and nations built,

It’s God’s gift to man that Satan fights to destroy,

because much good comes when marriage works.


Whether single or married or divorced,

The Author’s rules remain unchanged,

It’s not what statistics say that matters,

It’s not what psychologists say that works.

Marriage is a blessing for the willing,

It is a reward for the meek at heart,

It’s very possible for those who will work

with God to make it successful and fruitful.

For His perfect gifts bring no sorrow,

It is us who often choose to go our unruly way,

Yet the best awaited us in His perfect will & time.

Life Speed Kills, Slow Down

accident-1497295_1280Speeding vehicles cause terrible accidents,

How much more speeding souls?


Hurried hearts miss what is obvious

– the sunset, the blue sky, giving a hand,

Endlessly repairing the preventable

– because many mistakes are done in haste,

Anxiously hopping from one day to another

– without stopping to ask why.

Aimlessly striving and running in vain

– chasing what will not satisfy in the end,

Daily sacrificing precious health

– going on without rest and right eating,

Silently losing the intimacy of loved ones

– who will soon be gone,

Till it’s too late to turn the hand of time,

And forever missing the gain of slowing down!


Teach my heart oh Lord to slow down,

Daily coming in your presence at dawn,

To find wisdom and strength at your feet,

Daily considering the lessons from nature,

And realize that You know my concerns,

Surely, Your yoke is easy and burden light,

May I always be content in You, my Treasure,

In You alone does my soul find rest, peace and joy!

Freedom From Addictive Sins GET Series 7: GET COMFORTABLE

feet-1437163_1920(1)Child of God, there seems to be a huge misconception about what deliverance from addictive sins is. It is NOT being delivered, and never ever again having to deal with temptations. Deliverance from addictive sins are about being delivered from the addictive behaviors of those sins, but also realizing that it’s how we deal with those temptations that determine the outcome of the battle.

It’s time that we GET COMFORTABLE and realize this…” Temptation isn’t going anywhere.” It’s been with us ever since Adam and Eve sinned, and will be with us until Christ returns. So get comfortable with this idea:” YOU NEED TO MANGAGE YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES THROUGHOUT YOUR LIFE.”

Always remember that your sexual integrity is but a part of the sanctification process that all Christians go through. We will never be perfect until Christ returns, but we can strive every day to be the best we can be for Him.

“I count myself not to have obtained perfection” Paul told the Philippians. “I am still not all I should be.”(Philippians 3:12-13)

So learn to love the process of pressing on, not perfection. My challenge to you all, including myself is to MANAGE YOUR SEXUAL DESIRES WITH SELF CONTROL AND PRESS ON IN CHRIST.

Stay strong, stay pure, & honor God.


Study Verses

If you think you are standing strong, be careful, for you, too, may fall into the same sin.

But remember that the temptations that come into your life are no different from what others experience. And God is faithful. He will keep the temptation from becoming so strong that you can’t stand up against it. When you are tempted, he will show you a way out so that you will not give in to it. 1 Corinthians 10:12-13

When tempted, no one should say, “God is tempting me.” For God cannot be tempted by evil, nor does he tempt anyone; but each one is tempted when, by his own evil desire, he is dragged away and enticed. James 1:13

For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but we have one who has been tempted in every way, just as we are —yet was without sin. Hebrews 4:15

Because he himself suffered when he was tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted. Hebrews 2:18

Questions For Reflection

  1. Where have I been failing in dealing with sexual temptations?
  2. In which areas on my life can I exercise more self-control?

Freedom From Addictive Sins GET Series 6: GET HELP

hand-792920_1920“BIDDEFORD, Maine — A York County pastor who works with homeless children is facing child pornography charges, according to police.”

It’s not often that a news headline can fit the subject of a message, but the above headline is from the local news in Maine. How very sad that someone like a pastor is the latest casualty of the battle that we face daily.

Men, this is why it is so vitally important and urgent that we GET HELP, long before things get out of hand.

Sexual sins are often symptoms of something deeper, that a man must deal with, but instead most men try to medicate those deeper emotional needs in the wrong way. Repenting of sin itself is the necessary first step. The second step is to recognize the conflicts or needs that led you into that behavior of acting out in sexual sin. This will require a two fold frontal assault.

First, NEVER be too proud to seek out professional Christian help through your church pastor, or a licensed Christian counsellor.

The other key to recovery is to hook up with a Christian brother or two that can hold you accountable. The solution to the problem isn’t simply to ‘pray and get over it.” King David, who was no stranger to sexual sin, found refuge in Samuel’s wise mentoring.

(1 Samuel 19:18) “If you are willing to seek professional help for taxes, medical care, or career counseling, then surely you will be willing to do the same to maintain your sexual integrity and purity.”

Stay strong, stay pure & honor God.


Study Verses

Listen to advice and accept instruction, and in the end you will be wise. Proverbs 19:20

Questions For Reflection

  1. Who should I share my sexual struggles with?
  2. Is there a Bible Study or prayer group I can spend time with for my spiritual growth?

True Faith Does Not Demand Full Understanding Of The Journey

headlights-1449254_1920By faith Abraham, when called to go to a place he would later receive as his inheritance, obeyed and went, even though he did not know where he was going.

– Hebrews 11:8

Abraham is the father of faith because he took God at His word without question or complaint. He moved when God said move. He even set out to sacrifice his only son and passed the test of his faith.

When travelling at night, a bus’s headlights only shine a few feet ahead. But the bus can go long distances without having to see the destination from the start. The next step is enough for faith.

True faith trusts God to provide the resources, answers and further instructions along the way. You do not need to know how it ends as long as you know WHO started the journey.

True faith does not depend on what the physical eyes see and ears hear. A godly person believes the Words of God and does His will even when he/she is uncertain of the consequences of their obedience.

You will never understand the full activity of God. For instance, Why do bad things happen to godly people? I don’t know. But I know this: God is good and all He does is good. We should not judge by His works but by His nature as revealed in His Word. That is faith!

Is your faith in God alone?

Prayer: Father, I know faith pleases you. I live in a world that is ruled by sight, teach me how to live by faith. Help me to trust your words and to do your will in every area of my life. Though I often do not understand what you are up to in my life, I know you have wonderful plans for my life. I choose place my faith in your for the rest of my life. In Jesus name. Amen.

Freedom From Addictive Sins GET Series 5: GET BRUTAL

ID-100321251Step 5 in our “GET” series is one that many men do not, and will not commit to. But I can honestly tell you from firsthand experience, that if you want to overcome sexual sins in your life, you must and have to GET BRUTAL!

A principle taught to me by a Pastor that had once mentored me reads like this “THOU SHALT NOT KID THYSELF.” We tend to compare one sin to another and rationalize things. “It’s okay because viewing the swim suit edition of Sports Illustrated isn’t like I’m viewing porn.” WRONG, if it’s got the potential to pull you down, then consider it as if it’s just as dangerous to your spiritual health as viewing porn.


Sometimes even a legitimate activity (certain movies or television shows, music, or clubs for example) may be okay for other people to indulge in, but not for you. Men, it’s time to GET BRUTAL! GET BRUTALLY HONEST ABOUT YOUR LIFE STYLE: ANYTHING IN IT THAT MAKES YOU VULNERABLE AND PRONE TO SEXUAL SINS HAS GOT TO GO! There are many things that we can try to justify that are harmless – like my example of Sports Illustrated’s swim suit edition, consider what Paul writes and ask yourself “is this really something that will be good for me and those around me?

“All things are lawful for me, but not all things are edifying. I will not be brought under the power of anything.” (1 Corinthians 6:12)

Stay strong, stay pure & honor God.


Study Verses

But I tell you that anyone who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart.

If your right eye causes you to sin, gouge it out and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to be thrown into hell.

And if your right hand causes you to sin, cut it off and throw it away. It is better for you to lose one part of your body than for your whole body to go into hell. Matthew 5:28-30.

Run from anything that stimulates youthful lust. Follow anything that makes you want to do right. Pursue faith and love and peace, and enjoy the companionship of those who call on the Lord with pure hearts. 2 Timothy 22:2(NLT)

“Much of our distress as Christians comes not because of sin, but because we are ignorant of the laws of our own nature. For instance, the only test as to whether we ought to allow an emotion to have its way is to see what the outcome of the emotion will be. Push it to its logical conclusion, and if the outcome is something God would condemn, allow it no more way.” Oswald Chambers

Questions For Reflection

  1. What has been stimulating me to lust that I should cut out of my life in today?
  2. What is the Holy Spirit putting on my heart to keep away from?
  3. What are the consequences of allowing my sexual desires to get out of control?